You might think this is crazy – or maybe even that I sound a bit egotistical, but I have to tell you how insanely mentally and emotionally healthy I am.

Well, at least I must be healthy.  Or, I really am crazy…

The thing is… my highest desire for each of you is that you become as “crazy” as I am!  (This kind of “crazy” actually is really healthy.)

Here’s what I’m talking about and how you can benefit from this experience, as well:

Three years after our divorce, my ex-wife got married again in September of 2010.  She and her new husband were planning a trip to Europe awhile back, and she asked if I could stay at their home with our 11-year-old son while they were gone.  Since I live and work fifty miles away in San Diego, this was the most logical way to manage everyone’s schedules.

I thought this was really weird, but I had to acknowledge that I would be majorly affected by his school schedule needs if I tried to handle all of this with him staying with me in San Diego.  This weird option did make sense.

During the time I watched over him there, I was of course surrounded by all of their things.  I came to realize fairly quickly that I wasn’t uncomfortable there in the midst of her new life’s belongings.

I thought that was really interesting, but that’s as far as I took it.  It wasn’t until my ex-mother-in-law (with whom I continue to have a good relationship) made a comment to me that I came to a deeper realization.

She and I were on the phone discussing arrangements for my son, and she made the comment about how uncomfortable it must be for me to be staying with him there in my ex-wife’s home.  It was only then that I made the conscious connection to the fact that I was actually very comfortable there, and I then realized how strange that was.

I became pretty happy about this, realizing once again that my ex-wife and I were choosing to conduct ourselves much differently than do most other divorced couples.

We actually get along quite well, as evidenced by her asking me to stay in her home to watch over our son, and I was good with that.  I mean – really good with it.  It surprised my former mother-in-law to hear me say that, and I get a lot of astonished looks when I tell the story to other people, too.  They always say, “How can you be there and not feel really uncomfortable or go into bad memories?”

At this point, the enlightened and at-peace Kent just says, “Hey, I’ve been good for some time now with the marriage ending.”  Because we both finally came to see that our lives were intended to go in different directions.

We (eventually) let go of the negative emotions and pain and became open enough to understand that our passion and purpose journeys were moving in opposite directions from each other, and we each felt strongly that we needed to follow the messages we were getting from our internal selves.

We also felt strongly that in order to keep our family “intact” while not married, we both needed to and would benefit from choosing to get along, and be great communicators as well as a loving co-parenting team.

Once you’ve gone through the storming and opened your eyes to develop that mutual understanding, what is there to continue to be uncomfortable or pissed off about?”

In the interest of full disclosure though, I have to say that it took me awhile to get to that place of enlightened peace.  I went through a very angry period as we were going through our divorce; I was extremely hurt that she didn’t seem to have any interest in wanting to save the marriage, which just didn’t make sense to me because it had been a long, happy, and loving one.

My initial internal transformation occurred when I realized that – for my own good – I needed to let it go and begin to create the most positive future for my life that I could.  That was a start.

As part of making this new life, I began to read a lot.  As I now have come to understand, the things we are to learn at points in our lives are presented to us when it is time and when we are open.

As I integrated these new learnings, I came to receive powerful and poignant insight that the marriage needed to be over in order for me to find and become who I was always intended to be.  

As my ex-wife and I have both been privileged to experience, when you discover and choose to connect with your deepest passions, you become true to the essence of who you truly are.  When you align your life with your passions, your unique personal destiny begins to unfold naturally and effortlessly.  Now, there will be some surprises, of course, but allowing this journey to unfold is how to find and experience the happiness, peace, and fulfillment that we all deserve.

And do know that one of the surprises can be the opportunity and challenge to let go of something that has served you and comforted you for maybe a very long time – like perhaps a very loving 22-year marriage.  One day, you may just need to awaken to the fact that it no longer works – it no longer serves you as a couple.  Yes, you should make an effort to strive for it to work again.  But if that’s not in the cards, know that it’s okay and there is a greater good working to make itself known to you.

That is what I wish for you.  That when these types of very painful transitions may occur for you, you ultimately allow yourself to let go when you realize it’s finally done.  Letting go also means letting go of any fear, or bitterness, or anger, or any other negative emotions.

Do allow yourself to go through the stages of grief as they show up for you – that’s absolutely essential when things are still very raw, and you need to process these feelings to later become free and move forward.

But when it’s time, I challenge you to let go.  Honor the good memories that will be there forever if you allow them.  My ex-wife and I still can chat easily about the great memories of our marriage – and we will continue to honor them, because those memories will always be valid. 

However, when you’ve started to heal after something ends, do let go of the feelings that no longer serve you.  And then look forward eagerly to the next step that God, the Universe, has in store for you.  You’ll ultimately be very pleased, I assure you.  This letting go is a huge element of moving into alignment with the person you’re intended to be and the life you’re meant to live.

Here’s to you finding and living your passions,

Kent

You know how you’d like to help everybody but you just can’t?

I work with clients in downtown San Diego, and I walk by literally dozens of people every day who are unfortunately homeless.  Whether by circumstance or by neglect or however it came to be, these people are without traditional shelter and many of them “live” downtown.  Since I walk by so many so frequently, I learned several years ago to just “put my blindfold on” and walk fast.  There was a part of me that really disliked doing that, but… you can’t help everyone.

However, over the past couple of years I have become much more spiritual and willing to listen to my God-muse, my intuition. This has provided me benefit in so many different areas, but one of my favorites concerns homeless people.  You see, my muse now guides me to the ones I am intended to help.  That might seem wierd, but it turns out that I really like that because it takes away the guilt I used to feel for sometimes walking by in my blindfold!

This happened again just last week…

I was driving to the market on a very busy street, and I needed to make a specific left turn to get there.  On the concrete median to my left was a homeless man, holding his cardboard sign up for the drivers to see.  There was a line of cars ahead of me waiting for the light to change, so the man never got to my car as he was walking the median.  When the left-turn arrow turned green, the cars started to move.  I was planning to stare straight ahead and not look at him as I passed.  This would be nice and tidy and guilt-free, I told myself.

Too bad my plan didn’t work.  Despite myself, I found myself looking at him, and in that exact moment, he looked down at the ground.  What I saw in his face was a strong sense of resignation.  I felt as though he was saying to himself, “How did it ever come to this…”

That impacted me, but I continued to the store, got my cart, and started shopping.  However, I found that I couldn’t get him out of my head.  I kept feeling this strong sense that I needed to help him.  Since I couldn’t shake this sensation, I knew that my muse was doing an excellent job of pointing me to do something for him.  When I checked out to pay for my groceries, I made sure that I had the right amount of cash that I was being guided to have available.

I got back on the busy street – going in the opposite direction this time.  There was a lot of traffic, and I noticed that the man was still facing in the direction he was before – now opposite from me.  I didn’t know how I was going to be able to stop and get his attention and give him my gift without getting plowed from behind by an impatient driver.  (I mean, this is California…)

How nice that my muse had that handled, too.  The light conveniently turned from yellow to red right in front of me, meaning that after the light turned green again, I was going to be the first car in my lane to get to where the man was.  I could control my lane’s acceleration rate!

As the light went green, I slowly pulled ahead to the man on the median, rolling down my window and calling to get his attention.    He was surprised to hear a voice in my direction, but fortunately was able to turn, see me, and reach out to grab the offering from my outstretched arm.  Our hands touched momentarily.  He smiled a big smile and said, “Thank you.  Bless you.”

I felt really good about that.

I’m sure it wasn’t a coincidence that I was reading an article about this type of event just a couple of days later.  According to the author, when someone receives a spiritual call to action, if they choose to answer it, the step between the answering of the call and hearing it is the visceral feeling he referred to as a “miracle impulse.”

This call can be as simple as a silent message coming from a single soul who just needs to feel connected, one who is maybe lonely or in despair and merely longs for a connection.  They are only “calling” for someone to reach out to them to help or somehow just let them know they are worthy.  If you’re open, what you sense in that moment is a miracle impulse.

These are amazing experiences, very appropriately named, and brought to us courtesy of our Higher Selves.  All we have to do is listen and then act on the feeling.

Here’s to you finding and living your passions,

Kent

www.FindYourMissingPeace.com

Despite the prevailing worldview that human life is getting increasingly complicated, mired in problems,  and generally messed up, I am often reminded of the contrasting perspective that life is actually completely perfect—in the midst of a constant stream of what appear to be imperfections.  The following story provides a great example of what I’m talking about.

I was invited to a wedding last weekend to which by all rights I should not have been.  I didn’t know the bride, and the groom was a relative of my ex-wife.  A cousin of cousins with a “once-removed” thrown in somewhere, he was a young man who I saw occasionally at various family functions during the period my ex-wife and I were married.  This occurred during the time between when he was roughly five to eighteen.  The point is that I really didn’t know him all that well, and our paths have literally not crossed for at least ten years.

But, I was invited to his wedding, as were my kids, my ex-wife and her new husband.  Since the kids wanted to go, we went.  I was neutral about going, but in retrospect I have to say that I am very glad that I went.  It was actually very nice to see so many people that I hadn’t seen since our divorce, some of whom I only actually met once during our entire marriage since they lived in distant states.

The interesting thing was, once we got reacquainted, we just chatted away as though the divorce and ten to fifteen years of not seeing each other had never occurred.  Although this was quite enjoyable – especially while sipping wine – here is what I found most intriguing.

Almost everyone I talked to had a completely reversed life experience from where I remember they were last time I spoke to them!  The individuals I talked to who used to be on top of the world were now in the middle of a variety of non-trivial problems – some were marriage and relationship related, some were financial, and there were also substance abuse issues.

One lady, I’ll call her Sandy, had actually gone full circle – twice!  When I first met “Sandy” over twenty-five years ago, she had just had a difficult marriage breakup.  Then, next time I saw her in the mid 90’s, she was happily married again and life was good.  Now, at the wedding reception, she shared that she and her husband “Bret” almost lost their business due to the poor economy, and were very concerned about financial solvency.  She related though, that recently and out of the blue, a synchronicity had occurred.

Bret had just received an employment lead regarding an unusual position for which he was uniquely qualified.  This had come via an unexpected phone call from a person Bret didn’t even directly know.  The lead panned out, he got the position, and all of this couple’s concerns had been alleviated in one felled swoop.  Then, when Bret wanted to call the lead to say thank you, the lead was nowhere to be found.  All attempts to call or locate him went nowhere.  It was as if he didn’t exist…

Sandy referred to this lead as their guardian angel – he swooped in to meet a significant need and was never heard from again.  And he provided a divine solution to a genuine, very troublesome problem.

As I listened to all of these current status reports, and contrasted them each in my mind with the last status reports I had from years ago, I was indeed reminded of how life is truly perfect in all of its imperfections.

We are all spirits here, going about our lives, getting jobs, falling in love, having kids, and then each somewhere along the way experiencing some type of misfortune from which we ultimately learn, recover, and grow.  We are merely living our lives, learning the lessons that we were intended to learn here on the earthly plane, carrying forward with this new knowledge and insight deep within our souls.  Life is really happening just the way it’s supposed to.  Everything is actually perfect after all.

We just need to remember that…

Here’s to you living the life you were meant to live,

Kent

www.FindYourMissingPeace.com

Wow…

First, sorry it’s been so long since I’ve written.  You’ll see why in a minute.

I can’t believe it’s finally here.

The last month has been just literally crazy – and wonderful.

I’ve had the feeling for several months now that it was time to leave my corporate job.  Normally (lately), I listen and act accordingly when I get these messages.

But this time… it was just too scary.  Because then what…?

Thank God that Destiny knew when to make her next move.

I was at an advanced Mastermind session with Janet/Chris Attwood, Marci Shimoff, Geoff Affleck, and 11 other participants about a month ago.  Janet started to talk to me about the Passion Test for Business, and then later, so did Chris.

And then all of a sudden there was this amazing opportunity to work directly with them to help take this program more front and center in the world – where it belongs.

And I knew- they were going to offer me this opportunity, and that was the catalyst to finally quit my job.

And so I did.  Last official day was yesterday.  Out with the old.

Today I spent the day packing and planning, because tomorrow is finally the day of my Pachamama trip to Quito, Ecuador and the Amazon rainforest in our immersion experience to spend time with the indigineous Achuar people.

It’s funny, because this is literally the first time in my life that I’m going off-grid (for ~2 weeks), ever since I came to understand that I had actually been living a life fully on-grid.

Then, when I come back, I’m full-time immersed in the land of individual and corporate passion alignment.  How sweet is that.  In with the new…

I’ll have a lot to talk about when I get back on grid towards the end of May.

Talk to you then.

Here’s to you finding and living your passions,

Kent

I woke up yesterday morning and said, “OMG!”

It was the Big Day!  It was finally my day to speak at the Messenger Summit Event.

I was nervous, but mostly very excited.  Ever since the Successful Aging Expo speaking gig came up for me, I’ve been seeing more speaking opportunities showing up.  And… these gigs are now resonating with me as I have now begun to see myself in my mind’s eye as a speaker messenger.  This has been a new awareness, and completely unexpected.

I went through my talk with my PowerPoint again at home that morning.  It was friggin’ perfect – very well-delivered at 19:30, with excitement and just the right amount of poignancy and humor.  We had a 20-minute maximum time slot.  Looking good…

Fast forward to the Summit…

The other speakers in my room who went before me were soft-spoken women.  They had great messages that were well-delivered – just soft.  I was excited that my energy would provide a nice uplift and energy change.

My turn.  OMG.  I got fitted with my headset and my clicker.  Then… the presentation and live stream system crashed and needed a reboot.  Ucghcghhhh…

We were joking that with 150+ spiritual messengers in attendance, we were affecting the electronics.  LOL  – but maybe true…

Five minutes later.  Time to roll – for friggin’ real.

They did my intro, and I quickly walked onstage.  I authentically and powerfully started giving my message.  It felt great.

Then, about four minutes in, the system went screwy again and the computer and projector were not in sync with my slides.  Achchchhhh – they told me that I needed to start again so they could get a clean recording for the website that will provide access to all of these presentations after the Summit.

Reboot.  Take 2.

While I waited offstage, getting warmer, my new friend Lorna came up to me and said, “Kent – you are a very powerful speaker.  You don’t need the PowerPoint – let it go and just talk to us.”

That unnerved me.  What?  Go on without the PowerPoint?  How could I?  I told her that the reason I had the PowerPoint was to stay on task, because I had planned my message in such a way that I could communicate all I wanted to communicate and just barely come in under the requisite 20 minutes.  Clearly, that was all at risk if I just went up there and talked.  Yes…?

Take 2 on stage.  Here we go again.

It felt great.  Things were going smoothly.  Then…  uh oh.  The PowerPoint slides look different.

Then, shit.  The animation that I put on this slide isn’t showing up at all like what I placed in there.  Damn it – it’s making me click all these extra times to get rid of the slide content chunks that aren’t showing up the way they were supposed to.

It’s okay… stay cool.  You’re still enthusiastic and passionate.  Just keep going and stay powerful – even if the slides are screwed up.  Damn…

At the end, because of all my extra click time on a variety of slides, I ran out of time.  I had to completely skip over the slide for my new Mission – good thing it didn’t show up at all on the projector screen (ironic screw-up that actually benefited my situation).

Still went well – got a standing ovation at the end.  (Well… since we’re a bunch of newbies, we’re all giving each other standing ovations.  That’s okay – it still felt great.)

I got lots of nice comments.  And some very excellent feedback.  My new friends said that although they could tell I was passionate and had a great, powerful message, it was noticeable that my PowerPoint focus on the malfunctions was taking away from the impact of my message.  I did really appreciate that feedback.

And… I was kind of pissed off as I drove home later.  Because although I felt very powerful and like I had crossed an important threshold there on that stage, I was irritated because the end result for my audience was not as strong as I knew I could deliver.

Then I remembered that invariably, when my intuition tells me to do something (like speak at this event), the end benefit I receive is ALWAYS different than I think it’s going to be.  (And I never figure this out until later.)

I came to see how this PowerPoint malfunction was a gift to me as a new speaker to learn now not to rely on technology so much.  Because it can screw up and you still need to be ready to give your message effectively.

I realized that although I justified the large PowerPoint from a time efficiency standpoint, my intuition knew that I really used it so that IT would be the focal point for people to look at – rather than them looking at me most of the time.  Ah hah…

Then, I got the knowing that this never really was about me.  I just made it about me so I could choose to make it about the PowerPoint.

It really always was about my message.  I was just the conduit – whose ego and insecurities got a bit in the way.

I really need to and plan to heed this insight and remember next time to step up to support my message – with no fancy PowerPoint needed.  That’s what real transformational speakers are made of.  And… since I was on a friggin’ stage giving a live presentation with live webstream to the world and being recorded – I AM NOW A TRANSFORMATIONAL SPEAKER!

Point duly noted and appreciated.  Yes, everything happens for me, not to me.

And on we go…

Here’s to you finding and living your passions,

Kent

Hey everybody,

I blogged about this a few days ago, but in just over a week I’ll be speaking at a MAJOR event in San Diego called The Messenger Summit.

This event is put on by my friend Robert Evans with The Messenger Network.

 The event will have two parts to it:

 * Part 1 – One solid day of training from major leaders in the personal growth and spiritual world. These trainings are designed to help you get your message or business idea out into the world.

* Part 2 – Four full days offering 118 inspirational talks that will answer the question – ‘How does my message inspire and change the world.’ 18 of these talks are from some amazing transformational leaders – like Neale Donald Walsch, James Twyman, Greg Habstritt, Cynthia Kersey, Max Simon, Bo Eason, and 13 other keynote speakers.

This is a LIVE event happening March 21st – March 25th in Del Mar California. If you have time to attend in person, go to this link and check out the details:

http://pwc2.com/Q2   – then click “Attend” for information on the Live In-Person Event.

If you can’t make it in-person…

Here’s my suggestion…. be a part of it wherever you are at in the world, even if you’re busy those days. Here’s how…

Robert’s company is LIVE video Webcasting the entire event, which means you’ll be able to watch it on the internet from your home computer or later through the recordings they post after the event is over.

This has never been done before, not with so many speakers and with this much content or with such amazing trainings and talks on how to be a more effective and inspired messenger.

Here are details of the LIVE webcast:

http://pwc2.com/Q2

Just so you know the first day of the event is the BIG training day. The next 4 days after that will present the 118 inspirational talks. On training day you’ll be able to access up to 4 of the 10 trainings (live or recorded) OR you can signup to get access to ALL 10 trainings PLUS a 20 DVD Training kit shipped to your home.

The trainings include:

 * Greg Habstritt – Becoming The Trusted Authority of Your Message

* Bo Eason – The Power of Your Personal Story

* James Twyman – How to Initiate a Worldwide Movement

* Max Simon – The Secret Formula To Get High-End Clients Fast: A Proven Blueprint To Raise Your Value & Attract People Who Are Excited & Ready To Invest

* Robert Evans – The Art of ‘Conscious’ Viral Marketing for Your Message

* Pam Hendrickson – Creating Products that Sell: How to Make Money, and Make a Difference, with your Products and Services

* Randy Davila – How to translate your message to the written word

* Rachael Jayne and Datta Groover – 7 Keys to Giving Life-Changing Presentations

* Clay Collins – How to Pre-sell your Products and Programs

* Garrett Pierson – Unleash The Author Within You – Sharing Your Message With A Book!

This first day alone is worth the VERY small investment you’d make to be a part of this incredible Summit.

Go here for details:

http://pwc2.com/Q2

Go to this link and check out all the details of the Messenger Summit. Be a part of history, learn from great leaders, and be inspired to change the world!

http://pwc2.com/Q2

Here’s to you living your passions,

Kent

Kent Sayler

Live-Your-Calling Coach, Speaker, Author

Move Beyond Your Discontent to a Life You’ll Fall in Love With!